"The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong at the broken places." (Hemingway)
I will provide a professional, compassionate, safe and respectful
environment for individuals to come to, whether they are coming to see me
for trauma work, attachment issues, the impact of family of origin, recovery
from sex addiction (this includes partners and families).
HOW DO I RESTORE MY LIFE AS A SEX ADDICT
It is my intention to assist clients to learn to live a life of healthy emotional choice and to live with integrity. This will be done through intentional recovery work. I will use a two pronged treatment approach: the task model as laid out by Patrick Carnes of ITTAP and individuals therapy (family of origin therapeutic work).
When we meet I will explain how I work as a therapist and the steps that will need to be taken for recovery from sex addiction and codependency.
Should you decide to work with me I will do an initial assessment. One assessment will consist of taking a genogram of your family history to determine if you have suffered from neglect, sexual and/or physical abuse, lack of attachment and other possible causes of trauma. The second assessment will be through using assessment tests as developed by Patrick and Stephanie Carnes (SDI and PTSD).
Each session we will either work on the tasks from "Facing The Shadows" or we will do family of origin work using EMDR or Gestalt therapy.
HOW DO I RESTORE MY LIFE AS A PARTNER OF A SEX ADDICT
You are suffering from post traumatic stress syndrome. Research now indicates that partners experience post traumatic symptoms as a result of living with a partner with a sex addiction. My role with partners is to provide resources, support, validation and proactive healing for the trauma they are currently going through or have gone through. Should you wish full disclosure in order to do full assessment of the damage that has been done as a result of the sex addiction, I will support you and guide you and your partner through the process of disclosure. I will provide EMDR in order for you to recover from your trauma. I will do a "genogram" to determine possible family of origin issues in order to provide a road map for your recovery.
HOW DO WE, AS A COUPLE, RESTORE OUR RELATIONSHIP
I will do an assessment of your marriage with you and your partner, and explain the steps that will needed to be taken in order for your relationship to heal. Restoration from sexual addiction in a marriage will take time, trust has been lost, all rules have been broken and need to be reconstructed. Full honest disclosure will need to be addressed, damage done to the partner will need to be expressed, as will remorse from the "acting out" partner in order there to be some possibility of healing of the relationship. The tools I will be using in couples therapy is from my training with Patrick Carnes, Gottmans' and Harville Hendrix. Courageous, ruthless honesty is absolutely essential for any possibility of recovery in couples sexual addiction work. I will provide psychoeducation materials through websites, reading materials and information of how to link up with other couples in recovery.
In all my work as a therapist I use my compassion, training and professional knowledge, plus 20 years of experience in the field and my experience as a client in individual, couples and group therapy to guide me in my work with clients who have been impacted by sexual addiction and other traumas in life.